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How We Write a Maid of Honour Speech
Why the need for a speech?
The Maid of Honour – the all-important role of ensuring the Bride’s needs are met. Though, as the Maid of Honour, you sit somewhat in the shadows, that is – until the time of your speech! Then, all eyes are on you. Similar to the Best Man speech, it is your role to make people feel appreciated and happy on the wedding day by delivering a great speech. Though it appears more socially expected that the Maid of Honour speech is less entertaining but at least as heartfelt, so it’s important to make an impression emotionally on your audience.
Telling a story or two and making the bride happy is your role in this speech. But, there is plenty of room to compliment the bridal party, talk about the couple, and give the audience insight into the bride. By including all these areas within your speech, you will make the bride and groom happy and impress your audience by pulling on their heartstrings.
How we write a Maid of Honour Speech
We typically follow the below structure to create a Maid of Honour Speech. You may wish to include more stories or messages, but as long as you consider the below, you'll create a great speech that injects extra fun and good feelings into the wedding reception.
The Eulogy should take those listening, including you, close family and friends, and other audience members, on a personal journey of reflection. Think about who will be hearing the Eulogy and what stories, information, and style of speaking will bring them comfort and joy. One way of achieving this is to include your loved one's style of speaking into your speech. If your loved one enjoyed a swear word or two and never held back an opinion, then you could include this within the Eulogy. Though - if your audience is quite conservative, you may wish to strike a balance.
What is the overall message you are trying to send with the Eulogy? We believe this question is particularly important for the Eulogy. You will wish to speak about your loved one's life, what he or she was like, and the things they did. But Pericles said, "What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others." Think about what your loved one left behind and what he or she wove into the lives of others. Understanding this will ensure you send a clear message with the Eulogy, and it will help to get the creative juices flowing when the time comes to think of stories.
Example - Dad had reason to give up on life due to all the challenges he faced. Despite this, he worked hard and thrived. He lived a happy life, could be relied upon for support and advice during the tough times, and helped others to live a happy life.
Why the Bride and Groom are a good match – a quick story or an opinion will enhance the story that the audience is already apart of – the couple’s adventure of falling in love. Being close to the Bride, you have a unique insight into the couple and can help to boost the love-filled spirit of the occasion.
Special points about the Bride and thank you messages – perhaps the Bride or couple has been through some challenges. Touching on these with a focus on hope and positivity will be personally appreciated by the Bride and Groom. Also, sending thank you messages to those who have helped with the occasion, particularly for the Bride and her preparation, will ensure these people feel acknowledged.
A toast and show of admiration for the couple – you may have expressed a mixture of emotions throughout your speech, but ending your speech on a highly positive note will ensure that you leave your audience with feelings of love and happiness.
The very first words in your speech. You could launch straight into a "hi everyone", or consider launching straight into a comment or telling a story about the bride or couple. We like to grab the audience's attention straight away and prepare them for some heartstrings to be pulled, along with some laughs.
Example - Good evening Ladies and Gentlemen. This is truly a very special day for me. Not only do I get to celebrate a fabulous occasion with my friend, but I get the honour of standing by her side on her wedding day. Think of me as her subconscious mind that is bursting to tell a story or two.
Ad Hoc Story About the Day
Behind the scenes, you’ll get up close and personal to the bridal party and some of the funny events that take place. Your audience will find stories about these moments highly entertaining and will set the tone for a positive speech.
Where It All Started
Telling a quick story about how you know the bride will provide the audience an insight into your relationship with her. Alternatively, share a brief "get to know the bride" story. These stories are an easy way to get the audience’s attention, and it will allow you to add some humour and show heartfelt appreciation for the Bride.
Example - For those of you who don’t know Alana, I’d like to share with you what she means to me and to those that are blessed to be surrounded by her. Alana is not only a beautiful, drop-dead gorgeous woman, but has a beautiful soul too. Like on the night of her Hens party we happened to see an injured dog on a sidewalk. He must have been hit by a car. Alana insisted we stop and help the poor animal, which we promptly did. We left him in the capable hands of a nearby vet, but make no mistake, I know [Bride] has checked up on him several times in the days that followed until she was satisfied that he was going to be ok. [Bride] can also be very resilient when needed. She will stand her ground and do what she believes to be the right thing, even if it goes against the grain - I absolutely love this about her! Life has dealt her some blows, as it does to many of us, but she always manages to work through them and this has made her even tougher
A Story of Yesteryear
Talking about nostalgic or personal memories you have of the bride is a great opportunity to feature your theme, capture the audience's interest, and add some humour. It may also teach the audience a little bit about what the couple or the Bride is like
Example - When I think back on our adventures together as children, I have nothing but fond memories that I will cherish forever. On our first Bush Camp, Alana arrived in her designer wear, original Disney Mickey Mouse jacket, LA Gear runners, leg warmers & a ponytail. Little did she know – we were going to “rough” it out! If you know Alana, you’ll know that she was always such a “girl”!
The Silly Things We Do
A wedding speech is an entertaining speech, so including a funny story about the bride or advice on marriage is a great way to get some laughs and lighten the mood. Just remember to keep it appropriate for your audience type.
Example - Now, I could tell you about the time our car broke down and we had to thumb a lift to get home; or the time we lied about going to the movies and went out clubbing instead – um…. sorry Mum? We even had a secret code - we called it ‘the code of sisters’. Don’t worry Alana, my lips are sealed. We did some really stupid things, as teenagers, but we always managed to keep each other afloat and steer each other in the right direction. There was even a time when Alana wanted to join a circus and tour the world with them. I had to convince her that there were other ways to see the world and being a circus clown was probably not the best career choice for her. She had momentarily forgotten that I’m the funny one in the family!
On a More Serious Note
Your speech isn't complete with adding a touch of admiration and sincerity. Talking about how special the Bride or couple will balance out the light-heartedness of your earlier sections
Example - Dean, when I first met you and noticed your more reserved personality against Alana’s, I thought, “Oh dear, she’s too much for him to handle, he’s going to run for the hills!”. How wrong I was! Dean and Alana, you are a perfect match! You share similar values and beliefs, but even more importantly, you complement each other's strengths and weaknesses. It is pleasing to see how well you seem to fit together, as if you were moulded by a higher power to be a perfect fit!
Even More Serious
A quick story or an opinion, with a focus on the couple, will enhance the story that the audience is already apart of – the couple’s adventure of falling in love. Being close to the Bride, you have a unique insight into the couple and can help to boost the love-filled spirit of the occasion. Additionally, you may wish take this opportunity to thank the bridal party and acknowledge the audience
Example - It is important that the man Alana marries will treat her with respect, admiration, and the love that she deserves. And as for how they met, well that’s a story for another day! Let’s just say that sometimes one needs to intervene and ‘guide’ a friend in the right direction – the direction being The Windsor some 5 years ago. Dean, you are the perfect complement to Alana and I would like to thank you for being a wonderful partner to her. In the past 5 years, since meeting each other, I have seen both of you grow as individuals and flourish as a couple. They say that – coming together is the beginning, keeping together is progress, and working together is success.
On That Note
Ending your speech on a highly positive note that encapsulates your theme will ensure that you leave your audience with feelings of love and happiness.
I want to take the opportunity to say thank you to everyone present for being here today and having been a part of Mum’s life. I would also like to acknowledge those who were unable to attend and those joining us via streaming. I do not doubt that you would have loved to have been here in person today. Looking down, I’m sure Mum would be extremely grateful for everyone being part of this service today and for having shared time, love, and friendship with you.
So, on behalf of Dean, Alana, and the bridal party, I would like to thank you for sharing in this amazing day that represents the start of another chapter in their lives together. And on that note, I would like to propose a toast. Please charge your glasses and join me in a toast to congratulate Dean & Alana. Here’s to sharing a lifetime together filled with love, romance, and happiness, to Dean & Alana!
I’d like to leave Dean with these parting pearls of wisdom. There are two golden rules to a happy marriage:
1. The wife is always right.
2. When you feel she is wrong, slap yourself and read rule #1 again!
Consider how you are delivering your speech. There may be times in your speech that you should vary your tone and volume, and times you should use gestures. These tools will help to get maximum impact, so consider this when you write your speech. For more on how to deliver a Best Man speech, check out our Resources page.
At SpeechForm, we believe your efforts to write your Maid of Honour Speech is not to just “get it done”, but to make the speech enjoyable, memorable, and one that has people approaching you to sing their praises for your speech. After all, you will have put in a lot of effort. There is something special about making an impact on your audience, when you thought your sole job was just to “get through it”. Make sure to include the above points so that the audience gets what they expect from your speech. And always ask yourself - what am I trying to achieve with this speech? Keep that in mind as you develop your content.
Remember to rehearse. This is a performance. The more you develop your speech and rehearse, the greater the impression you will make. Confidence through a well-written speech is great, but using your voice and your body effectively only comes through practice.
Get it right, and you will leave a lasting impression that your audience will remember long after the wedding.
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