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Why the need for a speech?
The Best Man role is one that asks a lot from you - complimenting people, making people laugh, helping the Groom, and of course - giving a speech with stories and content appropriate for the audience. And, if you are like the majority of people, speech writing for weddings is not something you do every day. Yet, it is your role to make people feel appreciated, happy and entertained on the wedding day, and you can certainly achieve this by delivering a great speech.
How do I do this?
A great Best Man speech is ultimately designed to do just one thing - make people happy. Through a combination of entertaining storytelling, a bit of humour, compliments, and a show of admiration towards the Groom and couple, happy is what the audience and the bridal party will be.
What do I need to do?
In your Best Man speech, you should consider the following:
Your audience - who are you talking to and what do they like? Give this some thought and the audience will appreciate it. Remember - the speech is about the audience, not about you, and your job is to keep them happy.
A theme - what is the overall message you are trying to send through your stories and content? Nailing this down will help get the creative juices flowing when the time comes to think of stories.
A "hook"- the very first words in your speech. A comment or story that grabs the audience's attention immediately
Ad hoc story about the day - a lost ring, a car breakdown, a missing person... weird and wonderful things happen on the wedding day, and it might be worth telling the story for interest, humour and conversation after the speech
An early memory - a story about how you met the Groom or the couple provides perspective to the audience and is a great opportunity to capture the audience's interest, provide some humour, show how much you admire the Groom or couple, and teach the audience a little bit about what the couple or the Groom is like
Funny story about the Groom or tips - providing some entertainment is part of the Best Man role, so including a funny story about the Groom or couple or tips on marriage is a great way to get some laughs and lighten the mood. Just remember to keep it appropriate to your audience.
Compliment the bridal party - no Best Man speech is complete without complimenting the entire bridal party on how they look and how they have helped with the wedding.
Consider any special points about the couple - perhaps the Groom or couple have faced a particular challenge or are embarking on an exciting adventure? Mention it and try to tie it into your theme or a compliment.
Special thank you messages - there may be absent family or friends or others in the audience that require a message of thanks. This is your role and may get asked by the bridal party or family to pass these message on.
Toast - ending with a toast to the couple, and perhaps a quote, will finish your speech off nicely!
Your delivery - consider how you are delivering your speech. There may be times in your speech that you should vary your tone and volume, and times you should use gestures. These tools will help to get maximum impact, so consider this when you write your speech.
What if I get it wrong?
At SpeechForm, we believe your efforts to write your Best Man Speech is not to just “get it done”, but to make the speech enjoyable, memorable and one that has people approaching you to sing their praises for your speech. After all, you will have put in a lot of effort. There is something special about making an impact on your audience, when you thought your sole job was just to “get through it”. Make sure to include the above points, otherwise you may not get the bridal party and the audience may not get what they expected from your speech. And always ask yourself - what am I trying to achieve with this speech? Keep that in mind as you develop your content.
Remember to rehearse. This is a performance. The more you develop your speech and rehearse, the greater the impression you will make. Confidence through a well written speech is great, but using your voice and your body effectively only comes through practice.
Get it right, and you will leave a lasting impression that your audience will remember long after the wedding.
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