Acknowledging your audience and giving your audience a sneak peak at your love story and will set the scene for the wedding to come.
Starting my journey
Why the need for a speech?
Traditionally, guests expect formalities at an engagement party, and they want to feel involved in story of the couple. Although they may feel this way through general conversation at the party and the prospect of an upcoming wedding, your speech provides an opportunity to make them happy and feel even more involved. Those that host the event or have helped with its preparation also seek appreciation, so acknowledging them will ensure your engagement speech is enjoyed by the whole audience.
How do I do this?
Selling your love story and thanking hosts and guests are qualities of a great engagement speech. Summarising your relationship with your Groom or Bride-to-be, the story of your proposal and your heartfelt feelings about the engagement will satisfy your partner’s and audience’s need to feel starry-eyed and part of a great journey. Finishing your engagement speech by thanking guests for attending and showing recognising hosts and others who have helped with preparations will leave the whole audience feeling appreciative and happy.
What do I need to do?
In your thank you speech, you should consider the following:
Your audience - who are you talking to and what do they like? Give this some thought and the audience will appreciate it. Remember - the speech is about the audience, not about you, and your job is to make them feel happy and appreciated.
A theme - what is the overall message you are trying to send through your stories and content? Nailing this down will help get the creative juices flowing when the time comes to think of stories.
A "hook"- the very first words in your speech. A comment or story that grabs the audience’s attention immediately.
The proposal story – everyone loves to hear about the proposal. An easy opportunity to show your affection towards your partner and get the audience engaged in your speech.
Complimenting your partner and expressing your feelings towards the engagement – guests have attended to be part of your love story. Expressing how much your partner and the engagement means to you will leave everyone feeling warm and content.
Thank you messages and a toast – a thank you to attending guests, a sign of appreciation to those who have helped with the party and a toast will guarantee the speech ends on a high note and will boost the feel-good emotions as everyone shifts back to party-mode.
Your delivery - consider how you are delivering your speech. There may be times in your speech that you should vary your tone and volume, and times you should use gestures. These tools will help to get maximum impact, so consider this when you write your speech.
What if I get it wrong?
At SpeechForm, we believe your efforts to write your Engagement Speech is
not to just “get it done”, but to make the speech enjoyable, memorable and
one that has people approaching you to sing their praises for your speech.
After all, you will have put in a lot of effort. There is something special about
making an impact on your audience, when you thought your sole job was just
to “get through it”. Make sure to include the above points, otherwise you your
audience may not get what they expected from your speech. And always ask
yourself - what am I trying to achieve with this speech? Keep that in mind as you
develop your content.
Remember to rehearse. This is a performance. The more you develop your speech and rehearse, the greater the impression you will make. Confidence through a well written speech is great, but using your voice and your body effectively only comes through practice.
Get it right, and you will leave a lasting impression that your audience will remember long after the event.
For more on how to write and deliver an engagement speech, check out our Resources and Blog.
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