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How We Write a Father of the Groom Speech
Why the need for a speech?
The Father of the Groom speech provides an opportunity to deliver on several responsibilities expected of this role. As one of the hosts of the evening, even if it is unofficial, you are particularly responsible for making the guests on your side of the family feel warm, welcomed and part of the event. Simultaneously, you are responsible for making the couple the stars of the show, with a special focus on the Groom. The speech is key to fulfilling these duties.
Providing a mature perspective on the Groom and couple and making the audience feel appreciated are hallmarks of a well-designed Father of the Groom Speech. Being the Father of the Groom, and speaking on behalf of you and your partner (if applicable), means you have connections with many attendees and are well-positioned to provided trusted background insight. With the right amount of focus on stories about the Groom and couple, and acknowledging family and friends, your speech will shine the spotlight on the couple’s adventure of falling in love, leaving the audience feeling happy and entertained.
How we write a Father of the Groom Speech
We generally follow the structure below when creating a Father of the Groom Speech. Telling a story or two and making the groom and audience happy is the goal of this speech. But, there is also space to compliment the bridal party, talk about the newlyweds, and give the audience insight into the groom. You may wish to include different stories or messages, but as long as you consider the below, you'll create a great speech that adds some fun and good vibes to the wedding reception.
Being a more mature gentleman (in age, at least!) than others at the event, you’re probably less worried about getting up in front of an audience. You may even be less worried about what they think of you and your speech! Anyways - it’s important for your guests to enjoy your speech, and your speech should reflect who you are. Are you the life of the party, always telling jokes? Are you more reserved and formal? Stick with what comes naturally to you, but prioritise your audience’s expectations. In other words – don’t take it too far. Ensure it appeals to them.
Before you put pen to paper, think about what message you are trying to send with the speech. It’s too easy for most to simply write something “because they have to” without giving some thought into what they want guests to think of the speech. Obviously, you’ll want to please your audience and the bride and groom, but consider getting more specific. Understanding this will ensure you send a clear message with your speech, and it help you to come up with ideas.
The very first words in your speech. Most people start with a “hi” and a “welcome”, which is OK. But, consider launching straight into a comment or a story about the bride, a quote, an interesting fact about the wedding location, or an opinion about marriage. This will pique the interest of your audience and have them thinking, “Hmm, didn’t expect this. What’s going to happen next?”. We like to grab the audience's attention straight away and prepare them for some laughs, tears, and entertainment.
Welcome and Thanks
A wedding speech isn't complete without some formalities. Welcoming guests and acknowledging friends, family, absentees, those who have travelled long distances, and those who have made an extra effort will have everyone feeling part of the group.
Following your Welcome and Thanks, move your focus onto the wedding day, the couple, the "old days", or marriage with a quick story, opinion, or comment. Some may launch straight into stories about the bride or groom, but this is a place to keep the audience's interest up by add a personal touch and relating the day’s events to your own life. If you wrote a theme, this is a great place to get your message out there.
Time to focus on your son. Make him feel special, and connect your relationship with him or his upbringing to the context of the wedding. As someone who has raised the groom, you know a lot about his qualities and quirks. Here, you could include an opinion, a feeling, a story or two, or a combination of these. The key to winning with this section is to make your son and the audience feel “warm and fuzzy”, having talked about your relationship or his past and tying it to the wedding or the couple's future.
Now to focus on the bride. The purpose here is to make the bride shine. This is a great place to add some humour and show admiration for the couple. You may wish to tell a story about meeting the bride, the moment you realised the couple would get married, watching the groom grow through the experience, or memorable moments from having been part of the couple’s journey. As long as everyone has a good time with this section, you can’t go wrong.
Finish up with a touch of admiration and sincerity. Talking about how special this new relationship is will balance out the light-heartedness of your previous stories and comments. Quickly finish up if you’re worried about the length of your speech. Otherwise, you may choose to finish with a lengthier quote, opinion, or a funny anecdote about marriage. Also - perhaps the groom or couple has been through some challenges. Reflecting on these with a focus on hope and positivity will be personally appreciated by the bride and groom.
Round off by sending your best wishes for the future, and of course a toast! Ending your speech on a highly positive note will ensure that you leave your audience with feelings of love and happiness.
Consider how you are delivering your speech. There may be times in your speech that you should vary your tone and volume, and times you should use gestures. These tools will help to get maximum impact, so consider this when you write your speech. For more on how to deliver a Father of the Bride Speech, check out our Resources page.
At SpeechForm, we believe your efforts to write your Father of the Groom Speech is not to just “get it done”, but to make the speech enjoyable, memorable, and one that has people approaching you to sing their praises for your speech. After all, you will have put in a lot of effort. There is something special about making an impact on your audience, when you thought your sole job was just to “get through it”. Make sure to include the above points so that the audience gets what they expect from your speech. And always ask yourself - what am I trying to achieve with this speech? Keep that in mind as you develop your content.
Remember to rehearse. This is a performance. The more you develop your speech and rehearse, the greater the impression you will make. Confidence through a well-written speech is great, but using your voice and your body effectively only comes through practice.
Get it right, and you will leave a lasting impression that your audience will remember long after the wedding.
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