Story telling, thank you messages and admiration for your wife-to-be. Organise it the right way and give your audience the experience they desire.
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Why the need for a speech?
As the Groom, you will undoubtedly be at the centre of your wedding party’s attention all day, but at no point more so than when you are giving your speech. Your audience looks to you to acknowledge them and give them the “why” as to why they are all there with you (i.e. you love for your Wife). Fingers crossed, this will be the one and only time you have to speak as the Groom, so let’s make it as good as it can be so that your audience are left with a great impression.
How do I do this?
A great Groom speech should convey your feelings towards your audience, particularly your family and Bride. Traditionally, you are expected to thank your parents and in-laws and all those who have contributed to the day, tell stories about how you met your bride-to-be and in-laws, and of course, compliment your bride and express your love and admiration. Tick these boxes and you’ll do fine, but if you also organise it correctly and deliver it really well, you’ll have your audience singing your praises all evening.
What do I need to do?
In your Groom speech, you should consider the following:
Your audience - who are you talking to and what do they like? Give this some thought and the audience will appreciate it. Remember - the speech is about the audience, not about you, and your job is to make them feel love and gratitude.
A theme - what is the overall message you are trying to send through your stories and content? Nailing this down will help get the creative juices flowing when the time comes to think of stories.
A "hook"- the very first words in your speech. A comment or story that grabs the audience’s attention immediately
Ad hoc story about the day – there is a good chance you will have one or two stressful moments on the wedding day that others may find funny. Telling at least one of these stories is a great opportunity get your audience on the emotional rollercoaster.
The story of how you met your Bride – audiences love a great story, and perspective. For those that don’t know how you met your Bride, this element provides a prequel to the wedding day and sets an emotional anchor point for the opening and close of your speech – showing love and admiration for your Wife.
Stories about and thanks your Parents and In-Laws – acknowledging both sides of the family and their contributions to the wedding day and your life generally is a must. It is likely that many in attendance are also associated with the Parents in some way, so paying respects your family and others who have contributed to the day will convey the right sentiment to the entire audience.
Compliments to the bridal party – how they look, how they have helped on the day and leading up to the day will make them feel appreciated and boost the feel-good emotions.
A toast and show of admiration and love for your Bride – getting back to this emotional anchor point at the end of your speech will close it nicely and leave your audience, and particularly your Bride, with feelings of love and joy.
Your delivery - consider how you are delivering your speech. There may be times in your speech that you should vary your tone and volume, and times you should use gestures. These tools will help to get maximum impact, so consider this when you write your speech.
What if I get it wrong?
At SpeechForm, we believe your efforts to write your Groom Speech is not to just “get it done”, but to make the speech enjoyable, memorable and one that has people approaching you to sing their praises for your speech. After all, you will have put in a lot of effort. There is something special about making an impact on your audience, when you thought your sole job was just to “get through it”. Make sure to include the above points, otherwise you your audience may not get what they expected from your speech. And always ask yourself - what am I trying to achieve with this speech? Keep that in mind as you develop your content.
Remember to rehearse. This is a performance. The more you develop your speech and rehearse, the greater the impression you will make. Confidence through a well written speech is great, but using your voice and your body effectively only comes through practice.
Get it right, and you will leave a lasting impression that your audience will remember long after the wedding.
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