Updated: Sep 27, 2020
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Congratulations are in order - you are getting married! And, as if you didn’t have enough to do on your wedding day, you also have to give an awesome groom speech. But no worries! We are here to help put you at ease for at least one daunting task of the wedding day.
When it comes to writing a speech, there is no one way to do it right. Standing in front of so many people and expressing your feelings is a part of our traditions, but it is nerve-wracking. So, think about it. How would you write a groom speech that represents the love for your partner AND thanks your guest for being the part of this auspicious day in an amusing yet sincere manner?
No idea? Don’t worry – we have a guide that will help you in achieving the day’s (second?) hardest task. Discover the special tips for the groom's speech and know the tricks to deliver a speech covering all the valuable people and things in life.
Tip 1: Your Theme, Audience, Style and Structure
Your speech's theme, audience type, speech style, and the organisation of your speech are integral aspects of speech writing.
Firstly, the key to writing any great speech is a central theme. A major concept or message that carries through your entire speech. Not only will your message and speech be clearer to your audience, it will make it much simpler to think of ideas to write about. Make this your first task on your speech writing journey.
Secondly, understanding your audience and your style is important in delivering your speech effectively and appropriately. Your audience might be more conservative and expecting formal speech with light-hearted humour, or they may be more relaxed and more flexible with what they feel is appropriate. How this interacts with your natural speaking style is important to consider, as you want to strike the right balance between how you speak and what your audience will enjoy. If they like you cracking silly jokes, then consider adding a few jokes, but also bring the best version of yourself and tailor your words to your audience. Your audience, and especially your bride, will appreciate it.
Lastly, structuring your speech in a logical, easy-to-understand order will make your speech and your messages clearer to your audience. To help with organising your speech, visit our Groom Speech Example page or use our Speech Generator to build your speech.
Tip 2: Know Who To Toast
As you prepare your speech, this will be one of the first questions to pop into your mind. Who should you show gratitude to on the best day of your life?
The first one is your parents and the bride, your guests, and of course your best man and groomsmen. Then gradually move on to the other special guests in the reception and finish with your wife (after all, your life will start and end with her now). Try to get specific. One or two specific acknowledgements on exactly why you are thanking that person is far more powerful than a general mention. Specific shout outs to family and close friends will reflect your sincerity.
If you are hosting a rehearsal dinner, then consider giving your speech a rehearsal run so that you will feel more comfortable on the wedding day.
Tip 3: Know When You Will Be Giving The Speech
As the Groom, you should be aware that there will be others who will give a speech before you. Tradition suggests that the first speech given at the reception will be delivered by your bride’s father or the closest figure of a guardian to your bride. After that, the Father of the Groom, Maid of Honor and Best Man will also give a speech.
So, sit down with your soon-to-be Bride and decide the order of speeches. It will make it easier for you to decide who you should thank in brief and who must be thanked properly.
Tip 4: Start The Groom Speech
The key to nailing the speech is preparation. To deliver your speech in the right manner, you need time to review and rehearse your speech. If you finish the speech days, or preferably weeks, before the final day, then you will have enough time to rehearse it and get ideas from your friends and wife.
Tip 5: Fill Your Emotions But Don’t Overdo It
The ideal groom speech is a blend of romance, authenticity, and amusement. Writing doesn’t come naturally to everyone, but every groom wishes to do their best for the speech.
Create a warm introduction for the guests and thank them for blessing the wedding with their presence, including your parents, parents of the bride, your best man, maid of honour, and of course your beautiful bride. Also, don’t forget to speak on behalf of your wife as well. After all, it will no longer be “I”. Now you are a team and need to use “we” appropriately in your speech.
Tip 6: Humour
Entertainment plays a major role in wedding speeches, and including humour in your Groom Speech is an opportunity to contribute to an evening that is entertaining, fun, and memorable. Though, it is important to keep your audience in mind. If you are concerned about whether your jokes are appropriate, ask yourself a few questions to be sure. If you cannot answer "yes" to these, you should reconsider whether they should appear in your speech:
Does this fit my speech's theme and mood?
Will my audience feel comfortable with this?
Is it simple and easily understood?
Am I able to deliver this really well?
Don't focus on jokes that seem desperate for laughs, because this usually backfires. Instead, try to develop a lighter touch. This could include - funny anecdotes or stories from the day, one-liners that blend into the context of your speech, planned comments that actually seem off the cuff, funny quotes, clever stats, wordplay, dramatic gestures, vocal variety, raising an eyebrow, extended pausing within and around your jokes, speeding up your words, and smiling (see our Resources page for more information on delivering your speech).
Keep these options and the appropriateness of your humour in mind as you write and rehearse your speech and you will have a happy, entertained audience!
Tip 7: Mention What Makes The Day Special
Since childhood, everyone has thought about the details of the day they get married to the love of their life. Some people are lucky enough to fulfill their wishes and get their dream Spring or Summer wedding, beach wedding, or snow wedding. If you are one of those people, then don’t forget to mention it. People love stories, and after all, they are part of your story! Use subtle humor, creativity, and tell the story of how you met your wife and what has led to this day. Bring out the best memories of your relationship.
You can always use love quotes to express your love for the bride. Mention the anecdote in an innovative way and your audience will be engaged.
Tip 8: End The Speech Politely
Every bride and groom wants a wedding without any clichés and blunders. And remember – everyone wants you to succeed (in any case, your marriage is still safe!).
Tell your bride how you have waited for her all your life and now when you’ve found her, you will never let her go. Look her in the eyes and tell her that you have made a vow to love and cherish her for the rest of your life and that’s exactly what you intend to do.
A wedding is an occasion where two families come together to celebrate the love two souls have for each other. So, it is your duty to make sure that the bride’s family know that their beautiful angel is going away with someone who will put her needs before her and love her till she is old and gray.
Start your marriage and end your groom speech with a great quote and raise a glass with everyone.
Tip 9: Seek Support
Your speech doesn’t have to be something to dread. It can be an opportunity to wow your audience, make you feel amazing about your ability to entertain your audience and send your message. If you are having difficulties coming up with ideas, organising your speech or worried about what you have put together, explore our speech platform. We work on bringing you amazing speeches you can be proud of delivering.