Updated: Feb 13
Celebrate your father-son bond by writing the perfect speech
Finally, the big day! Front of crowd, probable co-host, and of course – the speech. Chances are you won’t be the first or the last speaker, but that doesn’t mean you can’t show your maturity (or immaturity depending on how you feel) and your ability to make people laugh and cry (in a good way, we hope). In all seriousness, your speech is an opportunity to show your love and pride for your son and the couple, as well as complete the expected formalities of thanking your guests. And while we’re at it, why not add in some entertaining insight into the groom? It is a wedding after all. In the spirit of the occasion, let’s be both fun and heartfelt and have your guests wishing you could have spoken for longer.
Off we go.
You may think that writing your Father of the Groom Speech, forgetting it, and then simply delivering it on the day is enough. For some, it may be, but maybe you’re just not anyone. Set yourself up for success by preparing as best as you possibly again. Our Pre-Speech Game Plan Guide will help to prepare you for your journey to write, rehearse, and deliver a great speech.
Particularly if you are worried about being creative and having to think of ideas for your speech, a theme will help you along your writing journey. Most put pen to paper BEFORE they think of what they hope to achieve with the speech. Think about what you want the audience to remember long after your speech. Naturally, you’ll want your audience and the bride and groom to feel special and acknowledged, but consider getting more specific. The messages in your speech will come across better aligned and will make it much easier for you to come up with stories.
I have always wanted the best for the groom, though he has hardly needed my help! He has become a determined and independent person. The bride is similar in this sense, and they both support each other wonderfully. They make a great team, and I know their teamwork will shine with the plans they have for their future.
With this example, it becomes obvious to tell stories about the groom’s life and the couple’s relationship that highlights their determination, independent nature, and teamwork.
Are your guests the type to want a chilled-out speech filled with jokes, or something more reserved and formal? One or the other may sit better with your personality. The key is to create something that can both reflect who you are, but also appeals to the tastes of your guests. Give this some thought as you write your speech to ensure you’re telling your stories and sending your messages in a way that makes both you and your audience happy.
Opening and Welcome
Aim for the start of your speech to begin with a bang – something interesting to capture your guest's attention. It’s easy to taper into your speech, only reaching the interesting points when you start telling a story. But hey, you only get one shot at this, so why not make it as interesting as possible? Interesting points could include a startling statistic, a quote, a story about the wedding day, an interesting fact about the wedding or reception location, or an interesting connection of the date in history to the wedding.
How do you know when you have grown up? - When you’ve come of age to get married? When you've come of age to see your children get married? My wife says that if I came of age to see my grandchildren get married, I still wouldn’t be “grown-up”. But, seeing Josh get married today, he has most certainly grown up and into someone I am, and have always been, very proud to call my son.
Welcome and Thanks
Part of your role is to welcome, acknowledge and show gratitude towards your guests, particularly those on your side of the family. These may include VIPs, in-laws, those who have travelled long distances, and absent family and friends. Welcoming and thanking these people will have everyone feeling part of the group.
Good evening everyone. I am sure you will agree that this place is a fantastic venue for the wedding ceremony and the continuation of our celebrations tonight. And I’d like to pass on a big thank you to the team busy delivering such a superb event for us. I’d also like to thank everyone who has helped in the lead-up to and during the wedding day in all ways big and small. You have all played your part in making today special and it is very much appreciated.
Your Relationship with the Groom
Making your son feel special (and to also poke a bit of fun) and relating your relationship with him to the context of the wedding, the couple, or the future is the goal with this section. This could include an opinion, a feeling, a story or two, or a combination of these. The key to winning with this section is to reflect on the past and present, entertain your guests with a joke and story, and to make your son and the audience laugh but also feel “warm and fuzzy”, and then relating this in some way to the person he is today, the day of his wedding.
Josh has always been the type of person to find the good in everyone. Even when he was little, I was blown away by Josh’s kindness. At School, Josh made friends with every single person in his class. It didn’t matter if one child was not popular or if another was too quiet. He found the best in every student and could make people feel like they had known him for years. Since he has always had these qualities, I was not surprised when he went into his current job. Josh thrived on the fact that he could help people, and since then, he has worked more to help other people than himself. But, I always hoped he would find a wonderful, lasting relationship so he could do more for his own self. I also hoped she would be just as warm-hearted as Josh, but still had a great sense of determination. Luckily – he found Dani.
Although the Father of the Bride may be able to poke fun at the groom, you may or may not be able to do the same with the bride. It depends on your relationship, but in any case, it is another opportunity to add some humour. You may wish to talk about how you met the bride, a time where you knew the couple would get married, how the bride has changed the groom (hopefully for the better!), or an interesting quirk about the couple’s relationship. As long as everyone has a good time with this section, you can’t go wrong.
When Josh met Dani, I saw that, over time, more and more happiness seeped into his life. It was like he saw everything in brighter colours. He smiled more, and we knew how much [Bride] meant to him. To find happiness can be very difficult. Michelle and I are both very thankful and happy that these two found happiness and found each other.
Finish off by sending a message of love and best wishes to the couple and a toast! If you’re worried about how long you are speaking for, you can quickly close off with a toast or otherwise a lengthier quote, opinion and/or a funny anecdote about marriage.
[Bride] and [Groom] I do not need to tell you two to take care of each other. I am confident that you both will. I wish you many happy years together. Ladies and gentlemen, please raise your glasses. To the bride and groom!
Many people write the speech and then later (or even never) consider how best to deliver the speech. Are there areas to pause, to change your tone, to speak louder? A great speech deserves to be delivered well. If you need tips and tricks on how best to deliver your speech, check out our Resources page.
Congratulations in advance! You will have taken your audience on an emotional rollercoaster and have them singing your praises long after your speech. In the spirit of the occasion, the speech was an opportunity to both boost the event’s fun vibes and heartfelt atmosphere.
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