Updated: Jul 26, 2020
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One day, you will face one of the biggest dilemmas of your life when your best friend or brother asks you to be the best man at their wedding. As much as it is an honour to be asked to be a best man at a wedding, there are certain duties that you need to fulfil. One of them is giving the best man speech, which is also the biggest.
How do you sum up all of your love and respect for someone in just a few words? That’s a tough question to answer. But, that doesn’t mean that you have to bear the burden all by yourself. There is no harm in taking help from here and there to nail your speech. Sometimes, the best man ends up drinking a little bit on the wedding day and giving an awkward speech. However, you won’t want to be a mess on the most special day of life for your friend.
So, here are some tips that will save you from rambling and sharing inappropriate stories about the groom. So long as you express your affection towards the couple and add a little bit of humour in the speech, everyone will enjoy it. The best man speech is a pivotal movement in the wedding reception. To nail the moment, gather up all your memories and adventures with the groom and take a look at the tips we have for you.
Tip 1: Your Theme, Audience, Style and Structure
Your speech's theme, your audience type, speech style and the organisation of your speech are integral aspects of speech writing.
Firstly, the key to writing any great speech is a central theme. A major concept or message that carries through your entire speech. Not only will your message and speech be clearer to your audience, it will make it much simpler to think of ideas to write about. For example, if you wish to convey a message of “the Groom has always shown real strength”, then remember to keep that theme apparent in your stories. This will give you an easy platform to launch into crafting your stories, and your audience and groom will appreciate it when they remember your speech long after the event. Make this your first task on your speech writing journey.
Secondly, understanding your audience and your style is important in delivering your speech effectively and appropriately. Your audience might be more conservative and expecting formal speech with light-hearted humour, or they may be more relaxed and more flexible with what they feel is appropriate. How this interacts with your natural speaking style is important to consider, as you want to strike the right balance between how you speak and what your audience will enjoy.
Lastly, structuring your speech in a logical, easy-to-understand order will make your speech and your messages clearer to your understand. To help with organising your speech, visit our Best Man Speech Example page or use our Speech Generator to build your speech.
Tip 2: Start Writing When You Have the Time:
As the best man, there are many things that you have to take care of. Before you get distracted by your responsibilities and find yourself short on time, start writing as soon as you are asked to be the best man. Yes, we know that sounds a little bit desperate. But, the wedding bells come with many duties and you will lose sight of time without even realising. Instead of waiting until the last moment, give yourself enough time by writing the speech early.
Tip 3: Maintain the Balance Between Gratitude and Humour:
We understand that being best friends with someone means that you make fun of each other and laugh with each other all day long. But in every person’s life, there are special moments when the best man has helped the groom and vice versa in a way that no one else can. Start by congratulating the groom on finding a soulmate, or you can crack a joke that now you can go out without someone hanging on your shoulders all the time (wink emoji).
If you are concerned about whether your jokes are appropriate, ask yourself a few questions to be sure. If you cannot answer "yes" to these, you should reconsider whether they should appear in your speech:
Does this fit my speech's theme and mood?
Will my audience feel comfortable with this?
Is it simple and easily understood?
Am I able to deliver this really well?
Don't focus on jokes that seem desperate for laughs, because this usually backfires. Instead, try to develop a lighter touch. This could include - funny anecdotes or stories from the day, one-liners that blend into the context of your speech, planned comments that actually seem off the cuff, funny quotes, clever stats, wordplay, dramatic gestures, vocal variety, raising an eyebrow, extended pausing within and around your jokes, speeding up your words, and smiling (see our Resources page for more information on delivering your speech).
Keep calm and show gratitude to everyone who is present to witness the moment where two lives become one. Don’t get too serious, otherwise everyone will be crying at the end of the best man speech and you will always be remembered as the guy who made the Bride and Groom cry on the happiest day of their lives.
Tip 4: Talk About Your Relationship With The Groom and the Bride:
Just because you are the best friend of the groom, that doesn’t mean that you only need to talk about him only. Let the bride know that she is included in the best man speech as well. Think of an anecdote that summarises your relationships and give it a better meaning. Tell everyone how the bride and groom are perfect for each other and how they are the two halves of one soul.
Tip 5: Don’t Forget To Tell The Funny Story:
Generally, the groom chooses a person who has been with them from childhood to adulthood. So, you have been the part of his life journey, and certainly, there must be some moments when he was incredibly funny and stupid at the same time. But, don’t think of a story that is embarrassing for him. You are his buddy and the best man speech is all about the Groom. So, make sure that you make him the hero of the story and bring out the best version of him in front of everyone.
Whether you are the groom’s best friend or his Brother, you have a lifetime of hilarious tales and sad moments when one person became the saviour for the other. To exceed all the expectations of the groom and nail the speech, it is important that reflect your happiness and tell them that they are a blessing in your life.
Tip 6: Try To Find The Best Way To Finish The Speech and Give A Toast:
There are literally unlimited quotes about love and happiness written by the greatest writer of all time. We are not asking to go full Shakespeare on the guests, but to take some ideas from the best writings. Marriage is a promise that is not going to be easy to keep up. Tell the bride and groom, the importance of marriage and that they are the reason that you believe that love is the purest feeling of all.
If you were there with the groom when he met his bride for the first time and you know how their relationship evolved through time, then it will be easier for you to describe the qualities of each person that makes them a great couple. The best man speech needs to be subtle and witty to leave a mark on every person’s heart.
End your speech by telling the guests that you knew that the groom had found his soulmate when he started loving someone more than his Xbox!! Cheers to my best friend and his new best friend (making frown face), may they keep on falling in love with each other more and more for the rest of their lives.
Tip 7: Seek Support
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